I can advocate for others to their detriment and not let their path unfold for them. I think one of the most powerful things I've learned is that we can hinder another and not let them own their own triumphs when we are codependent.
It has taken me years of working on this to see it and still sometimes my eyes are blind to what I am doing until I get a glimpse of the honest truth. Then it is an eye opening and trail bending, tires screeching stop in my tracks.
I try to remember how it feels when I do something that feels triumphant and that I could be potentially robbing another person of their triumphant if I am constantly meddling and trying to make it okay for them. It is powerful learning our own lessons but sometimes it is hard on the sidelines to watch someone struggle.
I'm also robbing myself of my precious time and head space. I've actually never really got that till now. I have read about it and listen to people talk about it but haven't felt it deep in my soul. I have things I am meant to do and ways that I want to show up in my life but I get bogged down thrown into the ocean swimming in a sea of everyone else's problems.
There is wisdom in compassion and love for others. I believe in helping others when they are down but there is a point that it can get sticky. Where you wonder if you are helping or hindering? That is usually a good point to step back. Your internal meter might be off.
I've learned when the voice inside is unclear to just be patient and listen. The answers will come and all will be cleared up. Patience is hard especially if you are a fixer and doer. That is where the stillness and knowing will always bring comfort over the need for fast action.
That uneasy feeling, the questioning thoughts are all there as our little GPS system to keep us on our divine path. We can get lost and take a few too many turns but there is an internal voice that will never let us trail too far.
Take the time to listen a little closer because the more you listen the more it'll speak. I've learned to love this voice because it provides me with peace when I listen. I used to only listen to others and was really terrified to be me or make a choice. I never had peace or the knowing that everything was turning out perfectly because my inner GPS was always being pushed down.
Now I cherish my inner guidance system because it knows for me. Sometimes the path doesn't look like I hoped or I'm unsure that it is going to workout. The truth is it will never workout if I always listen to others. It only works if I truly tune into the meter inside that beeps when I'm in the zone of doing what other people think is best for me. I do have to slow to down to listen and know that eventually my path will make sense.
Warm Strawberry Hazelnut Peanut Butter Sandwich
two slices of bread
3- 4 ripe strawberries
1 tablespoon of chocolate hazelnut spread ( I used Once Again Amore Organic Hazelnut Spread)
1 tablespoon peanut butter, almond butter, sunflower butter or cashew butter
1 tablespoon of butter
1. Thinly slice strawberries. Spread hazelnut spread on one slice of bread and nut butter on other slice of bread.
2. Place the slices of strawberries evenly on top of the hazelnut spread. Then place the slice of bread with the nut butter on top. Spread half of the butter on the outside of the top piece of bread.
3. Warm a pan on medium heat once warm put the buttered side directly onto the pan. Spread the rest of the butter on the top slice. Cook bottom piece till golden brown.
4. Flip once first side is golden brown. Then cook the other side till golden brown. Serve immediately.
Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy this little reprieve in your day. A moment for you. I've found when I'm in the mode of controlling it is usually due to lack of self-care. Take this moment to care for yourself and listen to the whispers of your inner voice. You know exactly what you need.